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Therapy to Support Healthy Capacity for Connection and Aliveness

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Congratulations on taking the first step in the journey of transformation and post traumatic growth!

Finding a therapist who is trauma informed, while appreciating the significance of attachment theory, can be a challenge. I believe that everyone wants to love and to be loved. Things get in the way. Unresolved developmental trauma and what gets “encoded” around our sense of self, our lovability, our right to have needs, our trust in others, and our ability to self-determine, become compromised. We then employ coping strategies to disconnect ourselves from our hearts and what we truly are wanting and desiring for ourselves. These coping strategies, which were once adaptive, helped us to survive. Now, we must learn to relate to them in a different manner.

 

To support you in resolving developmental trauma and creating secure attachments with the people you care about, my style is compassionate and focused. I integrate the Neuro Affective Relational Model (NARM) and the Emotionally Focused Coupled Therapy (EFCT). For clients who cope by engaging with problematic behaviors, I implement principles of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).

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Our Therapists

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Valerie Siegman, LMHC, LMFT

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Marriage and Family Therapist
 

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Alexandra Stretch

​Pre-Licensed Professional

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Learn About Our Approaches

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"The most exciting breakthroughs of the 21th century will not occur because of technology but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be a human.”

We are not meant to go it alone.

Relational distress and disconnection are inherently traumatizing to our bodies and nervous systems.

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Individual Therapy or Couples Therapy can be modes to support you in growing compassion and curiosity about your cycles of conflict and  disconnection within yourself and in your relationship. Understanding your cycles and inner road blocks opens up new possibilities for self agency, growth and change.

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“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

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